face to Face

“We’re living thru a period in which we’re de-facing things…” said Oxford Philosopher Sir Roger Scruton, “we no longer see the light of the soul shining in things”. In many of his writings, Scruton argued that as cultural materialists, we’re no longer valuing ourselves (and therefore others) at the core because we don’t look face to face. “What core?” says the careless atheist. Scruton, recently deceased this month, would have countered that the immaterial part of each of us is the real lasting story. What is entirely unique in each face is a reflection of a deeper substance: the soul–which is self-conscious, multi faceted, freely distinct and making decisions even to the end of physical life. Scruton also posited that we never become real with ourselves, or known until we face another right in front of us. And further, he surmised that when one comes before the face of God, without a barrier between, that we become finally ‘in touch’ in the deepest of ways. The face is the front forward of the being, and to hide from another’s face is to devalue that one.

His words made me think of this painting. This was accomplished by an artist friend using various dilutions of coffee and crayon. The fugitive media she selected to describe her mother is itself a poignant counterpoint to the lasting depth she expresses! This was a real woman, caught in the heaviness of later life, before she passed away. Every line and wrinkle is only a marking of the deeper whole behind the skin. And because the artist faced her mom, honestly and directly, it is easy to imagine how she loved her.

This drawing may be one of the more beautiful things I have ever seen. The faces of my babies were certainly most beautiful in their purity, but this face shows the struggle of time. There is something accomplished here in the drawing that stops me. Scruton described it as: “The arrest of the self by the confrontation of beauty, the significance of tragedy…we’re taken up by it”  

My work, and my skill sets are entirely different than what this artist accomplished. But Scruton’s words challenge me about elucidating some way into beauty, combined with the truth of tragedy in a way that takes others up also. It’s a matter of facing the Face.

2 thoughts on “face to Face

  1. Lynn Severance

    Mary, it is an exquisite painting and your description of ‘why’ is also exquisite.

    With social media and other ‘short cut’ ways of communicating (text messages rushed off),
    face to face connection truly is lacking. At times, even when ‘face to face’ I find friends still
    checking their phones not wanting to miss “something’ and in doing that they are ‘missing’ parts of why we are together wanting to share and be present to each other.

    i don’t know the answer other than being aware of it myself and doing my best to not let it happen .

    Lynn

    1. marynees Post author

      oh good comment! so very true! And isn’t this just an amazing piece? The artist is so talented and shows very little, she is a middle school art teacher and I am awed by what she can do!
      love u Lynn, if we sat together sometime after crossing many states, I promise I will leave my phone unopened! 🙂

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